Lately, I’ve been feeling a little too much about myself. We’re all accused of being extra, being too concerned with our own problems and probably just worrying about ourselves. But it is not wrong. Not at all. Do not let anyone tell you that your concern for yourself is a guilt trip. It’s a better way to be a better version of yourself.
I understand how very few people are really concerned about your problems or empathize with you wholeheartedly. I am usually empathetic towards people if they’re empathetic towards me. As selfish as this may seem, it is actually one thing that I make sure is not conveyed differently at all.
A lot many things happen during the day and sometimes we never get a second chance to rectify our mistakes, convey things in a better way or do something for someone that you always contemplate on doing but never do because of the sheer worry of judgment. About 3 weeks ago, I started collecting myself and all my worries for 5-7 minutes every day and spent time with my mind. This doesn’t mean I keep a gratitude journal or sit in one corner of a room and meditate. It simply means that I fit in these quick moments at the end of my day and go through the highlights of the day in my head. It is like a quick review of my daily musings and episodes where I think I could have reacted in a more acceptable way.
You can call it a ‘me-date’ or a ‘solo date’ which is usually accompanied by a cup of coffee or by the sight of the setting sun, but it is worth every second. I cannot stress enough on the fact that there are so many things that we just take for granted or feel entitled to acquire as humans. But so many times we forget that the most trivial things in our life can be a question of life for so many others.
Each day, I thank my life to have provided me with all that I need to survive, sustain and be healthy. We sabotage the importance of food, clean water, clothing, and a personal space to share our lives with our better halves, friends or roommates. Nowadays, I make it a point to catch a quick cappuccino at my favorite place in Dublin or simply retrospect over the beautiful sunrise/sunset I got to experience on a particular day or just the fact that I can be anyone I want to be, and choose to do anything I love to do. This is what makes me feel like I can be a better version of myself.
So the next time you find yourself seeking validation from others on any platform, remember that there is no one in the world who loves you as much as you love yourself. This is what is enough. Be grateful for everything you have, not resentful for something that someone else achieved before you. We’re all running in a never-ending race of perfection and it’s nothing short of tasking on our mental health. Do not be shy to accept your flaws, and don’t feel apologetic for loving yourself. Spend a few moments with yourself every day, not for anyone but you.